"Every woman has these insecurities!"

The headline to this entry represents one of the multiple, highly common, sexist comments that I simply hate. But it is just not something that people say; in general, it is twice as likely that a person of female gender suffer from anxiety disorders, than that one of male gender does, according to AADA.* AADA also writes that "differences in brain chemistry may account for at least part of these differences", which I do not doubt, but as the quote says, it is not the whole problem. So, what is it, more than the possible brain differences, that make women generally more insecure than men?

Well, if you ask me (which I will suppose that you do, seeing as you are reading my blog), I say that if anything, it is because society, in various ways, tells women that they are supposed to be insecure, just because they happen to lack a penis, and that is what other people who lack a penis is. Thou art a woman; therefore, thou shall feel insecure. As with so many other sexist prejudices, it has rather become something like one of the many unwritten laws that for some reason seem to control our lives to a great extent.

But, of course, these deeply ingrained prejudices do not only affect women; what must it be like, I wonder, to be a insecure man in today's society? Naturally, I have no idea, but I thought "Hey, I'll google!". The results I received where merely general tips on how to stop being insecure, but when I performed almost the exactly same search, save for changing "man" to "woman", the results I received mainly consisted of tips for insecure women.

I think that this quick google search rather answers the question I asked at the beginning of the previous paragraph; it is both common and generally accepted to be insecure as a woman (again, because that is what we are supposed to be), but as a man, it is neither common nor accepted, and hardly a part of the male norm (as oppose the female norm).

(By the way, if there are any people out there with both insecurities/anxiety issues and penises, please do leave a comment about what it is like, because I am really curious about it. Do you feel secure confiding your emotions to close friends, or are you afraid to be judged? Do you know any other people in the same situation? and so forth. I will be ever so grateful. (This blog probably has like three readers at the moment, but I figured that I can at least try and ask.) )

And I mean, come on, if women felt secure, they might come and claim their rights and things like that, and we just can not have that, can we? (I used sarcasm in this paragraph.)

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(And yes, I know that there is a difference between feeling insecure and suffering from anxiety disorders, but it was the most accurate comparison I could think of; the google results that was presented to me when I tried looking for research about insecurities and gender were merely depressing.)